Taking your control back and being in charge of how you feel

Hey my love,

 Taking your control back and being in charge of how you feel

Something happened last week that inspired this topic, but before I go any further I want to ask you a quick question. Have you ever been in a situation where someone did something or said something that just annoyed or irritated you and it ended up affecting your whole mood and how you felt? If you have been in such a situation that’s great because that means I’m not alone and this newsletter is for you, so pay close attention.

So back to what I was saying earlier, Someone did something someday last week that really annoyed me, it really affected my mood to the point that I wasn’t as productive as I should have been that day, because I just kept on thinking about what the person did. After eventually calming down and reflecting on the situation from a clearer point of view, I realized that I was wrong to give that person control over me. I shouldn’t have let my annoyance with that person control how I felt the whole day to the point of affecting my productivity. Because at the end of the day nobody’s action should impact you in such a way that it takes away your peace.

I know that this is something many of us struggle with, especially when it comes to dealing with people’s negative comment about us or just their negative attitude towards us. That’s why today I would be giving you a few tips on how to take your control back and not to let anyone’s negative action affect your mood or control how you feel.

The first tip I would give is to always stay calm. when someone does something that annoys you or pisses you off, you are more inclined to want to react, but the truth is that any action you make while you are in the heat of your emotion is never going to be the best decision you could have made and you are most likely going to regret it. So it is important that you stay calm and you think things through before making any action.

The next tip would be to live it in the past. What has happened has happened and there is nothing you can do about it, so there is no need for you to keep going on and on about it. No amount of ranting or crying will change what the person said or did so live it in the past and just move on from it. Try and take your mind off it by doing something that will make you feel better.

always remember that you can’t control anyone’s action, you can only control how you react to that person’s action. So make a conscious effort not to let that person’s action affect you. Choose not give power to that person by reacting the way they want you to. Choose to protect your peace.

Another thing, If someone said something to you that deeply offended you and you just can’t seem to stop thinking about it, then dig deep. Ask yourself why are you so sensitive about it? Is there a truth to what this person is saying? If there is, rather than dwelling to much on it, try and find a way to correct yourself and change.

Asking yourself what role you played in the situation would be another tip I would give. Ask yourself what part did you play in making that person act the way they did. If you are completely innocent and you did nothing to deserve such behaviour or comment then there is no need to dwell on what that person did. Move on from it and remember that whatever pushed that person to act the way they did towards you has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them so don’t stress about it.

Ultimately you can’t let the behaviour’s of others steal your joy or take away your peace. Don’t give anyone control over you to make you feel a certain kind of way. Remember it all goes down to the choice you make. You could either choose to let the actions of others affect you or you could choose to be the best and happiest that you can be regardless of what others do. So choose wisely.

Moving on to the next part of this newsletter

Here is the Quote of the week;

Here is the podcast of the week;

My top three lessons of the week;

1. As we grow, our choices change and our priorities switch places. Not everyone is going to be appreciative of that transformation but remember to never be sorry for your growth.

2. Be your own hype person. Love yourself like no one else. Cheer yourself on like how you would with your closest friends. Believe in yourself above all else because at the end of the day, you have to be your biggest fan.

3. The quality of your work will eventually catch up to your ambition.

If you let other’s actions or words affect your happiness then you have given away your power. Yes words can sting, but you have a choice in whether or not you let them affect how you feel about yourself or your life. Hurtful words are a reflection of that person’s own issues and troubles not a truth about you or a reflection of your worth.

We have come to end of this newsletter and I hope you enjoyed it as much as I enjoyed writing it for you. If you enjoyed reading it don’t forget to share it to your friends and family it will mean a lot to me. Wishing you a productive week ahead and see you next week.

Bye boo,

Better Me Girl.