Quit worrying about what everyone thinks and just do it

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Quit worrying about what everyone thinks and just do it

Quit worrying about what everyone thinks and just do it. This is a statement we have all said at one point in our life, either to a friend or even to ourselves just to motivate us to do something we were scared of doing. It’s easy to say but in reality its not always the case. Sometimes, even after saying it we do not believe it and we are still left with the fear of what others will think.

Now I’m not going to tell you that there is a trick that helps you to magically turn off your emotion and make you not to care about what other people think, because there is none and I’m not going to lie to you.

The truth is we are social beings and we are designed to naturally care about what other people think. In historical times we lived in small tribes where everyone depended on one another for survival. In these tribes social rejection was seen as something to be scared of because being rejected by your tribe could result in death. That’s why our brain has evolved to associate social rejection with death and it feels so painful when we feel rejected.

Now that we know its absolutely normal to care about what other people think and we are not weird or stupid for caring about what other people think, its important that we learn to cope with this feeling of social dependency, so that we are able to reach our full potential.

It’s 2024, and we are not going to let the fear of other people’s opinion stop us from chasing our goals. So if there is something you have always wanted to do but the fear of other people’s opinion has been holding you back from starting, now is the year that we do it regardless of the fear that we feel even if it means doing it scared. I’m going to be giving a few tips on how to go after your dreams even though you feel afraid because this year we mean business and we are taking the bull by the horn. So sit back enjoy and listen.

The first most important thing to do is realize whose opinion matters. Many times we surround ourselves with the wrong people and that result in us craving validation from these wrong set of people. It is important that the people whom we seek validation from are people who support us and help us to be better version of ourselves and not people who do not support us in our growth. So ask yourself these people’s opinions I really care about , do they really care about me and do they support my growth if they do not, it’s time to set their opinions aside.

Another way to overcome the fear of other people’s opinion, is to realize that sometimes we are just overthinking. Sometimes people do not even care about what we are doing as much as we think, because they have issues they are also dealing with and what we are doing with our lives is not the top of their priority. so don’t let the fear of what they will think stop you cause sometimes they might not even care as much as we think.

Sometimes we care so much about others opinion that it stops us from following our dream because we do not want to look like failures to them in a case where things do not work out. The truth is that everyone fails and failure is part of life. Expecting perfection and success all the time is impossible. So don’t be afraid to start because you don’t want to fail. Just look at failure as a way to learn and grow. Also anyone who thinks of you badly for failing is the one with the problem and not you.

Build your confidence and know what’s important to you. Know who you are, what you stand for and what matters to you. Developing a value system is also important to providing a strong foundation to live your life on. People may critique your beliefs or actions, but if they’re grounded in your values, the criticism is less likely to stick. Confidence building and developing a sense of self go hand-in-hand. Being confident in who you are and what you stand for will boost your self-esteem and willingness to ignore haters.

Lastly make your dream bigger than other people’s opinion. Just imagine your dream was your loved one trapped somewhere, would you think twice going to save that your loved one even if people were giving their opinion, you wouldn’t. So go after your dream regardless of what other people’s opinion. See your dream as something you have to follow regardless of what other people think and just go after it.

I hope this was helpful to you and motivates you to go after your dream.

Here is the quote of the week;

here is the podcast of the week;

my top three lessons of the week

1.) There is no growth without discomfort so you have to embrace it, if you want to be better.

2.) Try to see the positive in every situation, being negative and just complaining will not change much but being positive will bring hope.

3). Try to listen more and talk less and try to understand where the other person is coming from you don’t always have to be defensive.

This brings us to the end of this Newsletter. If you read it to this point, it really means a lot to me and I’m genuinely grateful. If you loved this newsletter don’t forget to share it. It would mean a lot to me. Wishing you a productive week ahead.

Bye boo, see you next week Sunday,

Better Me Girl