Mistakes are normal, forgive yourself

hey love,

 Mistakes are normal, forgive yourself

Sometimes I wonder why we are so hard on ourselves, we are just humans and we are bound to make mistakes. Forgiving ourselves for the mistakes that we made, can often times be difficult, because of that inner voice in our heads berating and criticizing us for our actions.

what I’ve come to learn this past week is that, we all make mistakes, but when we are able to learn from this errors, let go, move on and forgive ourselves we improve our mental health and wellbeing.

Earlier this week, I made a mistake, I Impulsively acted and ended up hurting someone’s feeling. After I had acted, I realized that I was the one in the wrong and if I had heard that person’s side of the story I wouldn’t have acted the way I did, and I wouldn’t have hurt that person’s feeling.

After this happened I felt really bad and I kept replaying what I did in my head over and over again. It was difficult to forgive myself, because my mind kept replaying it and telling me how dumb I was for making that mistake.

I know I’m not the only one that has been in this situation, where we make a mistake and our mind won’t let us catch a break from hearing our much we messed up. If you are experiencing this, I want you to know that you are not stupid or dumb for making a mistake. we are all flawed beings and we are allowed to make mistakes and its from the mistakes that we make that we learn to be better versions of ourselves.

With that being said, I’m going to be giving a few tips on how we can forgive ourselves;

The first step to forgiving yourself is understanding your emotion. Being able to identify your emotion is an important part to forgiving yourself. Research has found that identifying and labeling your emotion can help reduce the intensity of your feelings. This can help you better regulate your emotions especially those linked with the feeling of guilt and shame.

The next thing to do is to accept the guilt. Don’t avoid it, yes, feeling guilty might not feel great at the moment but remember that it helps you to accept that what you did was wrong and learn from it.

The next thing after doing this is to take responsibility for your action. Own that you made a mistake, don’t try to defend yourself or give excuses for why you acted the way you did, just own it and take the necessary steps towards apologizing.

Be empathetic towards yourself. Show yourself love. Everyone makes mistakes, So don’t be so hard on yourself because you made a mistake, show some understanding to yourself.

Lastly focus on what you learnt from the situation and try not to make that mistake again. Rather than just dwelling on the fact that you made a mistake and you are disappointed in yourself try to look for the lessons you learnt from the mistake. When you do this you avoid making the same mistake again.

I hope you were inspired by this and I hope you incorporate this to your daily living.

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Forgiving others can feel much easier than forgiving ourselves especially when we are faced with the guilt of our mistakes, but its important to understand that we all make mistakes cause we are flawed, and the mistakes that we make leads to lessons learnt and from those lessons learnt we grow to become better versions of ourselves. So the next time you make a mistake don’t beat yourself up about it, learn the lesson it taught you and move on. Life is too short to live in the regret of your past.

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Bye my love, see you next week Sunday

Better Me Girl